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July 29th, 2006, 01:29 PM
#11
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Thank-you all for your advice. I did mention to my husband that I keep thinking of my brothers ex when I look at her and he said I could exchange her for another doll. I said that I couldn't do that, that he picked her out and I would feel ungrateful if I sent her back. He then responded that he doesn't care which doll I have, and if I want to exchange her I should. I think I will ask him why he picked Elizabeth, perhaps there is a really sweet reason behind it and not just something random. He also said he almost bought Nellie, and so I was thinking about exchanging for her, but I'm just not even sure I want another doll. Thank-you all for your advice! The consensus from the board seems to be to keep her and try my hardest to see her differently, I hope that's not easier said than done.
Thanks
Shanna
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July 29th, 2006, 02:37 PM
#12
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I agree that you should ask him why he picked Elizabeth. I'd offer my advice, but it's pretty much the same as all the other board members'!
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July 29th, 2006, 04:11 PM
#13
Inactive Member
I asked and he said the only reason he picked Elizabeth was that he was the most sure that I didn't already have her. I'm just still a bit torn on what to do about the girl. Maybe I'll just store her away for awhile...the only thing is, then I don't have any fun B-day present to play with. He also got me her riding outfit, and I made him a list of the things that I already have, but he must have missed it, so I have to send that back as well...sigh. The cake was fabulous though!
Shanna
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July 29th, 2006, 05:01 PM
#14
Inactive Member
I always make use of the AG wishlist before my birthday. I make certain that I include anything and everything that I might like so that there are lots of things to choose from and my family can still surprise me.
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July 29th, 2006, 05:11 PM
#15
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Since your husband doesn't care, I would exchange Elizabeth for something you do want whether it is another doll or something else, though you might want to wait a few days to make certain that Elizabeth isn't growing on you. [img]wink.gif[/img]
I believe that your husband gave the gift with the intent that you know you are cared for and for the gift to be something you want. I think it was very sweet of him to pay enough attention to the dolls you already had when choosing your gift.
If he had given you an article of clothing that was the wrong size or an unflattering color, I don't think anyone would think it was wrong of you to exchange it. Possibly this doll is just the wrong fit for you too. If so, then send her back so she can make someone else happy and choose something different for yourself. [img]smile.gif[/img]
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July 30th, 2006, 04:12 AM
#16
Inactive Member
Thanks MaryCarly, I think I will do just that. I'll keep her around for a couple days (at least until monday, I can't ship her tomorrow anyway) and see if she grows on me. I also put up a post about her little ringlets because I'm concerned about them as time wears on. I appreciate your kind words of advice.
Shanna
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July 30th, 2006, 04:24 AM
#17
Inactive Member
If you DO decide to get another doll, I do think Nellie would be a fine choice (if you don't have one)--since he was thinking of her anyway, and she's just a lovely doll (and character!).
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July 30th, 2006, 04:27 AM
#18
Inactive Member
Dear Shanna, I just read all of these posts about your poor Elizabeth and your dilemma about what to do woth her. First, although I Lol when reading it, please don't have all of your dolls gang up on her--the image is just not a pretty one.
Here is a thought for you--I hesitated about buying Jess because when I was in college my long-time (3 yrs +) boyfriend at the time cheated on me on Valentines Day with another girl named Jessica (but everyone called her Jess). This was a horrible experience esp. since he took her to NYC for a fun-filled weekend and left me with a Hershey bar and a book in my mailbox (relationship OVER after this humiliation). I have had foolish bad memories associated with the name Jess ever since.
But then adorable AG Jess comes along and now I have new, happy positive associations of choosing Jess from AGPC and the name is no longer tainted with Valentine's heartbreak of long ago.
My advice would be to see if the sweetness of the gesture and a few days of really looking at her enables Elizabeth to grow on you. If not then I'd get a doll you love. Also, if my DH ever bought me anything that was AG much less a doll, I'd probably faint so your DH's gesture is very very sweet :-) Let us know what you decide! Katie
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July 30th, 2006, 01:10 PM
#19
Inactive Member
I just love everyone here - everyone has such profound, genuine advice. I loved reading all of the suggestions...some very creative. In any rate, you have a tough decision to make. If my DH bought me a doll (would be a first) and I wasn't thrilled about it for any particular reason, I would feel just as torn as you do.
As much as I support the "let her grow on you" suggestions...I also support exchanging her. It doesn't seem like DH put too much emotion into his decision for picking out Elizabeth in particular. In the end, I'm sure he wants to see you happy - and probably would be much happier seeing a new doll out of its box rather than on a shelf in a closet.
Good luck - and let us know what you decide to do!
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